No more FF/RW, just Reset - Play

I underestimate the effect that good music has on my mood..................... It's that time of year... where we're meant to start feeling the holidays approach, summer days, bicycle rides, happy people, time to perk up the vibe.... no more radio, "mixtapes" for the car only, yeah!

Martin Luther King

Everyone has dreams... Some are big, some are small, some only have one -MLK. But we all have them. It's only natural that we do everything we can to achieve it or "get there". As time goes by the dream becomes more of a reality for some and for others it seems further out of reach as the days pass... This is when people start to settle for the next best dream, or the next desire that seems possible on the list. No one wants to be at this point in life, this realization, but a vast majority tend to find themselves there. These people will end up sailing through their entire lives settling because they found that there is happiness in "second best", not ultimate satisfaction, but happiness.... The reason this is ok for most is because chasing something that you're not going to get doesn't contribute to any happiness at all... Rather a constant feeling of "ill be happy soon" and soon never comes... So settling becomes the obvious and more appealing option. In the end people just want to be happy... So I guess, chase the dream you know will come to fruition, because sometimes, even working really hard at something doesn't always lead to reward in the end.

No one should have to settle.... But I suppose (even though I'm one who chooses not to) I can understand why people do, because no one deserves to not find happiness........somewhere.

More of this :)

Let's face it... life is only interesting if we make it interesting. There are so many days with nothing to do and nowhere to go.... then there are days like these. I want more of these....

See you soon..Can't wait!!

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Just stop talking..

Ignorant people are the bane of my existence. And while yes, I might not know everything - far from it..... but I am less ignorant for having acquired the skill of knowing when not to speak.

When you open your pie hole so hastily into a conversation you have very little knowledge or education on ... you open yourself up to judgement, and round here - we're no motherfuckin' Masipa.

Should be fun. Bicycles generally are. :)

Disregard for sanctity - how easily people forget..

It's a random post from my side, but it was sent around at work, I have only heard the news about his death not really looked into it. I always feel that a young guy that's married and in fame is far more likely to end up in a position where he forgets the things that Mike Maile states below. But truth be told many men fall into the trap of "forgetting" what they started or why they started and fuck it all up. I feel sorry for his wife, but then again, I have no clue about their situation... only that it resembles a cliche.. hence my sympathies lie with her and her children.

Wise words from Mike Maile after the death of Senzo

"I am not going to judge Senzo and Kelly. As an African, it would also be wrong for me to speak ill of the departed. I have no right to say their relationship was right or wrong. I am no paragon of morality and will not judge. However, there is an issue that has been bugging me that I want to talk about. Statistics point to the fact that divorce amongst black people has been in the increase since 1994.
From my observations, black brothers meet a genuine, beautiful and lovely lady that sweeps them off their feet. She remains the apple of their eye until they make money or get power. They get exposed to women who wear make-up, expensive branded clothes and drink champagne. They suddenly, feel that their wives are backward and do not fit in with their new found social profile.
It is my considered opinion that, the woman you are with defines you as well as what you truly want. You saw her, dated her and thought she was the perfect one out of all the women you met, hence you married her. The petite, English speaking, champagne sipping size 28 that drives you mad did not contribute to your growth. The woman that you now find backward, that is after impregnating her five times, was there from day one. She might not be the brightest spark, but she ironed your shirt when you went to that first presentation, she served you food and consoled you after you did not get that first deal. She cooked for you again and organized a celebration after you clinched your first deal.
She put the kids to bed whilst you were out hustling. She cooked whatever was in the fridge and made an attempt to make it taste it good before you got the MONEY that now makes you feel like the man. She did not shout, but instead took out the last R500 she had saved when you did not have petrol money to get to your next appointment.
This is the woman who had to tolerate you when you hit the bottle out of frustration when the first, second and third deals did not materialize. You swore at her. Slept with your back facing her. You were frustrated and took it out on the poor woman. She could have walked, but chose to stay and support you all the way. She is not alone. There are many like her. You are no exception, either. Many like you used women like her and developed a new 'taste' or 'liking' for women. The fact that size 28's throw themselves at you because of your new found wealth and or power, does not help.
Unless you know who you are, you will get lost in this confusion. I have not done the research, but I swear that these divorces come about as a result of us, men, changing because of new found fame and power. I have just defined a trophy wife for you. Many have destroyed their lives as a result of losing of focus. 

All I am saying is that the woman you first fall in love with and decide to marry is the one."

Life's short, eat cake.

Undergoing downtime

Some cool pics

 

Social Media

I do realise that the only thing I used facebook for was the news and topical debates. (Which I checked every morning). Haha! Now I have to find websites to find out what's going on in the world, in PE, in SA.... That said, filtering past all the terrible and annoying articles of torn up Rhino faces, lost and abused animals, baby ultrasounds, people talking about how busy they are etc etc is the reason I am completely over it. I just don't use it at all. My blog is for me....... It is also why I find things like instagram better because I choose the people whose stuff I want to see, and it's just imagery. Thank God. Then there's also the fact that people can follow me if they want, but that's unphasing, because everything is current, it's who I am now. Whereas facebook has my life from 2007, where it was the "new cool". A time that I don't even feel connected to personally anymore. Also at the frown of my mother - I added her to the family group on whatsapp, haha. :) I'm just trying to consolidate my means of communication so that the people I interact with, see, talk to, are people that I have personal and proper contact with.

It's also widely known that facebook stats are dwindling at a massive rate where Instagram and Twitter are soaring. So everyone's kind of over it - well, apart from the older generation who are recapturing their youth and finding friends they lost all the years ago and finding entertainment in witnessing others' lives via photos etc - and that's perfectly fine - Technology wasn't a big part of their lives, so it makes sense that this is something that they'd carry on with forever and enjoy.  However younger people have endless means of social media now, there are more "new cool's", which is why trends go up and down - because as with everything, there are novelties and we go with it. Facebook was all there was for so long, hence the numbers growing and maintaining. But with more options, come fewer stats, it's not rocket science. It's societal and social norms. (Marketing 101) haha. Though, sure, people stop using it but "no one deletes their facebook" Well I definitely don't feel I fit into the majority when it comes to a lot of things, and I'm guessing all the people - youth, people with their own opinions, people who gravitate to things that make better social sense for themselves is the boat I fall into.

Anyway that was what went through my mind while sipping on morning coffee. I also heard this clip on a 6 year old's take on what the meaning of life is. Makes you wonder if a 6 year old gets it..... how so many people failed to?

It's finally time I think... Cheers facebook :)

subtle

ˈsʌt(ə)l/

adjective

adjective: subtle; comparative adjective: subtler; superlative adjective: subtlest

1. making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something.

   "he tried a more subtle approach"
   
   
   Instagram's the new black anyway.

From the sidelines

It's funny when people choose to ignore cliche's or rather label something a cliche, therefore "basketing" it as something that doesn't necessarily pertain to everything or everyone. "As the saying goes" is a cliche saying even when in fact you haven't mentioned, said "saying".... But for all intent purposes of my statement, "As the saying goes" .."don't mix business with pleasure" ... well it seems everyone believes they're devoid of this becoming an issue in the workplace. They hire a friend, or go into partnership with someone who they generally like to go away on weekends with. We all have different sides to us, and sometimes your mom is just a good mom but not a good friend (using complete examples here mom in case you're reading, no personal reference intended - haha) Sometimes your best friend is just a good friend and not a good housemate............... Same when you hire someone to work with you that you've known for years, doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to be the best person for that position, or if it does, it doesn't mean you are going to get along with them when you're brainstorming different strat ideas for the business.

So what happens then? Someone that's the same age as you, that you've known forever, works side by side with you but isn't delivering what they should.. that's when the problem comes in, and that's when issues get treated differently and that's when things start to come apart at the seams.  But as with everything in life.... we don't change a thing.... we sweep it under the carpet, we turn a blind eye, we wish it away... until there's no choice other than facing the debris from the choices we made. Only then do we go "should have would have could have"

"Tough times reveal truths about people..."
"In calm water, every ship has a good captain........"

Friday I'm in love..

The Cure

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One of my loves...... is my car...... and for some time now it's been a little "rattled" and driving with some unfavoured strain. I took it into a number of places due to no one knowing exactly what it could be. Lots of different opinions. I almost purchased new engine mounts... Thank goodness I went with "check first" at another place before making hasty decisions. Engine mounts are perfect. Could be diff amounts, could be prop shaft, could be CV's............... Forums explain something that we haven't checked yet. It seems it could be the inner CV's. So my car was dropped off this morning at the CV guys (for what I hope is the last time). Below a few shots of trial and error up until this point. It's taken a while, but.....Time....was needed to eliminate potential things wrong. So hopefully it's sorted this time, because I'm not fetching it until it's right............. Keen to drive it the way it's intended :)

Time restores...

Get to a place where the only things you say to others are words of kindness, passion and love............

XXX

So.... thirty.... years.... of.... age........................... Every last moment preceding 31 August 2014 has in some way or form contributed to who and where I am this 1 September 2014. If you had asked me when I was younger where I saw myself at 30, I certainly wouldn't have given you the answer that matches where I actually am now that that day has arrived. However, if I could change my answer - I'd change it to match it exactly............. My foundations are firm..... and the rest of my life is ahead of these past 30.. (it's profound albeit an obvious statement, haha) Going forward...#everythingawesome